Hello. There is a lot of discussion in state legislatures recently concerning prenatal and new born babies. I believe all life is precious. It is important to me to act on my beliefs. Scripture tells us “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you.” Jeremiah 1:5 and “Children are a gift from God.” Psalm 127:3.
Maryland has a program called Safe Haven. This program allows new moms the option to give their newborns to a participating hospital, police or responsible adult within 10 days of birth. The mom says this is a “Safe Haven Baby” and no questions will be asked. I have a Safe Haven sign on the front of our home. I would accept the new-born and then take it to the proper authorities explaining that this is a Safe Haven Baby. It is my hope that this program may prevent a newborn from abandonment. You can find out if there is a program like this where live. Maryland’s program is under the department of health and human resources.
I have created a prayer for new life. I have printed out copies of this prayer and shared it and the Safe Haven information with my church family. I hope you will join me in praying for new life. Thank you and God Bless, Miss Trudy
Dearest God, Maker, Creator, Father of Life. Please hear my plea. Protect the precious newborns and babies-to-be. Let life unfold as it is meant to be. In Jesus name, I pray to Thee.
Today I will share some ideas for showing your love and remind you how very much God loves You! Truly!
“Lift up your face to God.” Job 22:26 Now Job had a quite a face to lift up to God. It was red, festered, teary, grieving. He had seen sorrow and he got the tee shirt of misery. Yep! His friends were commiserating about his woes. Almighty God heard their moaning and he stepped in to ask Job a question and it was a doozy! Ready, Where were you when I made the world? Kind of puts things in perspective doesn’t it? Wow! I have been sharing how much I enjoy my writing books. The last two scripture quotations are written near the photo of me and my dad. It was our last dance together. “Because you are precious in my eyes and honored and I love you.” Isaiah 43: 4. I prayed for my dad. I knew he was in God’s hands and I knew he was going where there would be no more sickness and his bride was waiting with God to welcome him. “Love never ends.” 1 Corinthians 13:8 I hope these thoughts warm your heart this cold January day.
I have also begun to create my valentines and some pretties for Valentines Day. Patrick took close up photos so you could see what I have been doing. You know I enjoy crafting with old greeting cards, well I cut out a heart pattern using the back of a card. Then placing the pattern on the front I cut out hearts. I made a dozen different cards with glue, paper scissors and the fronts and backs of old cards. Joy! I also made hearts using cross stitch, another was made with buttons and felt and the last was a hand stitched into a crazy patch heart. I started with scraps of fabric and placed the first piece in the center. I continued to add scraps until the piece was the size I wanted. Do not cut this pieced piece of cloth. Make a pattern a heart and use it to draw on top of the pieced fabric. Now embellish with embroidery, lace and buttons. Mine even has a blue bird pin. Now you cut out the heart shape and cut another piece of fabric using the heart for a pattern. I blanket stitched the two heart pieces wrong sides together. You can then and finished by sewing a pin or a ribbon on the back. Lastly, I am using a grape vine wreath to create a special anniversary piece which I will hang on the front door. I promise to take a picture when it is done. Oh, here is the web site information for 58,000 e books I was talking about. https://en.wikpedia.org/wiki/projectgutenberg.org Enjoy! Blessings and warm hearts, Trudy
“In the beginning was the word and the word was with God and the word was God.” John 1:1 God was – God is – God always will be. “All things were made by Him; and without Him was not anything made that was made.” John 1:3 The bible begins with God. “In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth.” Genesis 1:1 What was the very first thing God made? Do you know? It was light. “And God said let there be light :and there was light.” Genesis 1:3 Light. All life depends on light. Before He made anything else, God made light. “And God saw the light that it was good.” Genesis 1:4 In the first Epistle of John we read: “God is light and in Him is not darkness at all.” 1 John 1:5 All we need for life God created. He knew our needs. He was thinking of us when by His power the very first glorious light burst forth from the mind of God. We have free will. God will not force us to do anything. We must turn to the light ourselves. In the light is warmth, life and love – great love – boundless, limitless love – God’s wonderful love! Wonder! Joy! “Come let us walk in the light of the lord!” Isaiah 2:5 Blessings, Trudy
The colors – blues, rusts, and lavenders radiate from the center of the quilt outwards. The play of lights and dark’s remind me of the sunlight and shadows that dappled the old porch floor where the quilt design emerged from a jumble of fabric triangles.
This quilt would not exist if years ago someone hadn’t taken the time to share. They took the time to give me their knowledge and enthusiasm. I was taught how to sew. I learned to express my deepest feeling with needle and thread. I have sewn grief, prayers, love and joy to create a heart gift that speaks for me of my deepest feelings.
Kindness given long ago surrounds me now with color and warmth in the form of a quilt. Think of this blog as a collection of cotton fabric scraps given to you. You spill the contents out and begin to sort the scraps that appeal to you. Colors of life experiences, interests, beliefs and gratitude are spilled out in front of you.
At the center of all these is the dominate color of me. love. I am a daughter of God and of Albert Groff. I am a wife of 50 years and a mom. I am comfortable with this time in my life. I have peace, time, joy and great love. As you read the scraps of thoughts that I write to you, discover the ones that add beauty and richness to the quilt fabric of your life. It is my prayer that you will use these to express your true self. Use whatever medium stirs your soul. Create and grow. Discover what enriches your faith. Share the blessing that is you with others.
When a woman’s about twenty, With a baby about two, She begins to wonder what the years will do. Baking a cake for a community affair She pictures herself with silver hair.
Carrying her efforts to a church nearby A huge truck salutes with an air horn’s blare Which confection he is complementing She just couldn’t care.
Acknowledgement is made with a lady like wave, But the thrill of impropriety is saved, Put by against what the years will do.
There is a lot of learning going on. Baby continues to grow and gain weight. His feeding/wake schedule may change because he has hit a growth spurt and he is hungry. Ask your medical provider when to begin to introduce solid foods. It is also during this time baby begins to teethe. This could affect his appetite and his sleep routine. Most babies this age are starting to crawl, You might be surprised at how be maneuvers himself about.
Safety – If you have not yet taken a floor level search of your home – now is the time! Do you have safety plugs in unused outlets? Tie up blind cords. Where do you keep cleaning supplies? Can they be moved to an upper cabinet? Cabinet locks and “bumper pads” for sharp corners on your list? What about stairs? Need a safety gate? Emergency information on your phone is great, but what if something happens and you do not have the phone or are unable to use it? Please create an emergency information sheet. List on this sheet emergency contact numbers, medical provider contact, any medications baby is taking, Dad’s work number and maybe even the number of a neighbor who would help in an emergency. Keep this in a protective plastic sheet on the fridge.
Teething – Babies may begin to teethe between 4 to 7 months, some later. Teething may be painful, but it doesn’t usually make baby sick. Contact your healthcare provider if baby has diarrhea, vomiting, rashes on the body, a high fever, or cough and congestion. These are not normal signs of teething. www.webmd.com * Researching on teething information I learned that the liquid filled teethers, and teething necklaces should not be used. Numbing gel products, containing benzocaine like “orajel” should not be used on children under two years of age. Learn more at www.mouthhealth.org a web sight of the American Dental Association.
Baby is learning ways to get from one place to another. He is curious and eager to explore. He may crawl, scoot and pull to a stand. He will look for a toy that is hidden. He can drop things intentionally to see what happens. He is also watching your response to this activity. *Remember this activity is developmentally appropriate for this time period.
Stranger Anxiety – Your baby now understands the difference between you and a stranger. You can help baby get comfortable. Baby will watch you for cues, show how him that you like and trust the new person.
Separation Anxiety – Your baby will likely cry when you leave to persuade you to stay. I encourage you not to sneek away. Tell baby good=bye and that you will be back to get him, then leave. If you are concerned you can always call the caregiver to check on baby. I encouraged parents to have a picture of themselves and tape it to a spot baby can see.
Stress – It is important to understand that babies are tuned in to our feelings. They know when we are happy or upset. Even if baby is asleep angry voices and conflict can raise stress levels of babies as young as 6 months.
God Bless you and this young life you are caring for.
Dearest child, 3/1995 This letter is written so that you may know that I love you. Feel the warmth of my love as you read my words. Know that there is a God! He made you and me and He loves us dearly. God is. He is in, about, around, beside and inside. All of nature, the vastness, the depth, the beauty and wonder are His creations. Seek the path through the wood, watch the sunlight on the water, see the flick of bright wing, hear the call of an owl and thank Him with all your heart. When you are hurt, confused, leave the trappings of man and seek a quiet spot to sit and share with Him. He’ll be waiting for you. Remember not to lose yourself in things. Share what you have been given. If you put God first in your life, then, I truly believe you will be blessed. Do the best you can. Hurt no animal or beast if you can help it. The only thing we own, truly is what we share: our- selves, our love of God, man and nature.
Mother, oh Mother, come shake out your cloth, Empty the dustpan, poison the moth, Hang out the washing and butter the bread. Sew on a button and make up a bed. Where is the mother whose house is so shocking? She’s up in the nursery, blissfully rocking.
Oh, I’ve grown shiftless as Little Boy Blue (Lullaby, rockaby, lullaby loo). Dishes are waiting and bills are past due (Pat-a-cake, darling, and peek, peekaboo). The shopping’s not done and there’s nothing for stew And out in the yard there’s a hullabaloo But I’m playing Kanga and this is my Roo. Look! Aren’t her eyes the most wonderful hue? (Lullaby, rockaby, lullaby loo).
The cleaning and scrubbing will wait till tomorrow For children grow up, as I’ve learned to my sorrow. So quiet down, cobwebs. Dust go to sleep. I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep.
From helpless newborn to active toddler takes only twelve short months. It is important to remember that each baby in an individual and their progress in reaching milestones of development is unique to the individual child.
Tummy Time – When baby is alert and ready for play introduce this activity. It can be done on the floor with baby on his tummy. If baby does not enjoy this activity you can try placing him on your chest. A few minutes at a time doing this activity with you will help build baby’s neck muscles.
By 3 ½ months: Baby will turn his head to locate a sound. He will respond when he hears his name. You’re getting a little closer to a solid sleep routine. Rest when baby does and know that waking several times at night to feed is completely normal. After four months of age babies will likely sleep 12 to 15 hours a day including naps.
Baby development four to 51/2 months: Baby is learning to reach out and manipulate. They are discovering their hands and their voice. Baby will reach out to grasp, swat and manipulate objects. They will babble and laugh. The game of “Peek-A-Boo” is a great way to help baby learn that things exist even when we don’t see them. Baby is also learning to sit up.
Safety: Baby is learning to roll over. Have a play mat on the floor or place baby where he will be safe if he rolls over. Baby is using his hands and mouth to explore things. It is vitally important to keep small items that might be a choking hazard away from baby. If an item fits through the cardboard toilet paper tube it is too small for baby to play with.
Ear infections: www.nidcd.nihgiv/health/ear-infections-children National Institute on Deafness and Communicative Disorders If you suspect your child may have an ear infection, please contact your medical provider immediately. The peak time for ear infections is 6 to 18 months. An ear infection is an inflammation of the middle ear, usually caused by bacteria, that occurs when fluid builds up behind the eardrum. Children are more likely than adults to get ear infections. The eustachian tubes are smaller and more level in children than adults. This makes it more difficult for fluid to drain out of the ear, even under normal conditions. Also, a child’s immune system isn’t as effective as an adult’s because it is still developing. Currently the best way to prevent ear infections is to reduce the risk factors associated with them. Follow your medical provider schedule for immunizations. Studies have shown that vaccinated children get far fewer ear infections. Avoid exposing your baby to cigarette smoke. Babies who are around smokers have more ear infections. Do not let your baby drink from a bottle while lying down as this may allow small amounts of formula to enter the eustachian tube and cause blockage. www.webmd.com
Mom – Yes that is you. Please remember that you are experiencing physical and emotional changes. You are now a 24/7 caregiver. It will take time for your hormone levels to return to normal. You might feel blue. It is vitally important to you and your baby’s wellbeing to be aware of how you are feeling and talk to your medical provider about postpardum depresson.
You and your newborn will be on a six week learning curve. A newborn’s tummy is really small so baby will need feeding frequently and you will be exhausted from lack of sleep.
Crying – Birth to 3 months Crying is baby’s way to communicate hunger, discomfort, distress or a need for your attention. Babies under 6 months cannot be spoiled. They do not understand that you are another person. Responding to baby’s cries reasurres baby his needs will be met. Soon you will be able to read your baby’s cries and cues. Newborn’s reach a crying peak at about 6 weeks and then their crying starts to decrease. By 3 months babies typically cry for about 1 hour a day. Colic – Colic is defined as crying that begins and ends for no reason lasting at least 3 hours a day, happens at least 3 days a week and continues for 3 weeks to 3 months. Please discuss crying with your medical provider if you suppect colic.
Relationships – So much is changing and it is important to find time for being with your hubby. This is a big change for him too. Encourage him to get to know baby. Baby knows the sound of his voice and he will soon recognize his scent too. Try to carve out time to be together.
IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMTION: Baby’s need you to support their neck. It is also important to place the baby on his back to sleep. Never shake baby.
Breastfeeding – This is your decision. Please talk to a lactation specialist and your medical provider. If you can give your baby the colostrum that comes before the milk that would be a special gift for the both of you.
2 months – Read baby’s cues. Moving head toward breast or bottle – I’m hungry. Eyes bright, awake and alert – Time for play. If baby turns his head away, cries, or arches his back – I’ve had enough. Baby recognizes faces, voices and smells.
3 months – Baby is learning to trust. He relies on you for comfort. This helps baby learn to comfort himself. Baby babbles and opens his hands.
I was blessed to carry and give birth to a son. That is the wonderful news. When placed in my arms I kissed Patrick hello and I kissed him again to say goodbye. No there was nothing wrong, truly! The second kiss was to remind myself that he was only on loan to me. It was so important to me to give our son “roots” and ” wings”. Mr. Pat and I would both give our son the roots of love, values, and a nurturing foundation. We also wanted to give him the freedom and opportunity to discover, to learn and to grow reaching for his own dreams.
Well we had our plan but I knew nothing about infant care. Well, I did know what end needed diapering and Patrick and I had a great time figuring out how he would be fed. I will never forget the beauty, joy and delight when I pressed and milk streamed into his mouth. The doctor came in as we were figuring this out and smiled at us.
Mr. Pat worked two jobs the first fifteen years of our marriage. My college years were 15 years in future. There was no internet to ask questions. There were many things I did not know. I did know I was a “MOM” and babies don’t come with instructions so I better get busy.
During the coming week I will share with you some of the knowledge I acquired as a mom, a student of early childhood education and my employment working with parents and babies, prenatal to five years of age. Joy!